When we fall in love we seem to be blinded by a thick haze of bliss. In well-established relationships, meaning three years or more, we are even guiltier of overlooking the little things like weight gain, stinginess, and even snoring. It’s about the three-year mark when the little nuisances that initially made you fall in love with your significant other have now driven you to the point of near madness. These so called passion killers have led couple to take advantage of each other according to a study commissioned by Warner Brothers to promote last month’s release of the movie “Hall Pass.”
The movie studio surveyed a group of 2,000 British adults in steady relationships who pinpointed the 36-month mark as the time when the stress in relationships seem to peak. At least 67 percent of those surveyed agreed that those small irritations turned into major annoyances ones at the three-year mark.
Pollsters attributed longer hours at work and money woes as reasons that directly affect their relationships. The study also concluded that more couples in modern relationships take solo holiday and weekend trips away from marriages in order to ignite that lost spark.
The study compared the feedback from people who were polled in short -term relationships (defined as less than 3 years). The study also determined that as the years progress couples do not compliment one another as often. During the honeymoon stage, the one to two year mark, couples can look forward to three or more compliments a week from their partners whereas, couples past at the three-year mark can average one compliment a week.
So how can you survive the three-year irks? Relationship experts believe that couples should not sweat the small stuff. Couples should focus on bigger problems and address the bigger problems. You each should also take the time to appreciate each other by finding the time to enjoy each other’s company when you can. Remember the love. You fell in love with this person for some reason. And lastly, couples should also share the positive things about one another: They should find their own time, and bring it back together. You should share that stuff and go back to things you like to do as a couple.
Here are the top 10 “passion-killers”:
- Weight gain/lack of exercise
- Money and spend thriftiness
- Anti-social working hours
- Hygiene issues (personal cleanliness)
- In-Laws/extended family – too much/too little
- Lack of romance (sex, treats etc.)
- Alcohol – drinking too much
- Snoring and anti social bedtime habits
- Lapsed fashion – Same old underwear/clothes
- Bathroom habits – Stray nail cuttings etc.